Purpose-Driven Leaders: Tips For Creating 3 Boundaries Essential To Your Success
October 17, 2023
By Kathy Miller Perkins*
Purpose-driven leaders are passionate individuals deeply committed to positively impacting the world. Chances are, those of you who fit this description view your work as a calling. Therefore, you demonstrate tireless dedication to your cause. You believe you must give your work your all because of its significance.
The world needs passionate and dedicated leaders. However, your effectiveness will decline unless you set clear professional boundaries. And while some limits must be specific to your unique values and circumstances, other boundaries are vital for all leaders with a mission.
1. Emotional boundaries
Dealing with emotionally challenging situations is common for purpose-driven leaders, especially when their mission involves helping others or addressing sensitive issues. You could pay a high cost for caring.
A recent article referred to these emotional costs as "mission-driven occupational trauma." The article describes the dangers of believing one should merely "push through" the trauma from exposure to highly distressing events. The article makes a strong case for thinking through handling your work's emotional wear and tear.
Emotional vulnerabilities of mission-driven leaders
As a mission-driven leader, you are vulnerable to emotional trauma and fatigue because you care deeply about your work.
For example, if you provide aid and support for a community suffering the effects of a natural disaster, you may feel a deep sense of urgency to help those affected. At the same time, you may experience frustration and helplessness, knowing that resources are limited and you cannot immediately alleviate all of the pain and suffering. As you empathize with those you are assisting, you risk becoming overwhelmed with personal feelings of sadness and grief.
Likewise, if you are addressing sensitive and urgent issues such as climate change, you may be vulnerable to eco-anxiety, a specific form of anxiety related to the climate crisis. Your constant exposure to alarming scientific data and the potentially catastrophic consequences of climate change could lead to feelings of powerlessness, fear, and distress.
Mental health professionals report seeing a growing number of clients experiencing helplessness, dread, and debilitating stress over the implications of climate change.
These two examples are among many situations that could lead you, as a mission-driven leader, exposed to emotional crises.
Set psychological or emotional limits to protect your well-being and mental health to avoid this fate.
Emotional boundaries act as protective barriers to help you manage the impact of your work without becoming overwhelmed by the intensity of your mission.
Establishing emotional boundaries
Each leader's emotional needs and vulnerabilities are bound to be distinctive. To create effective emotional boundaries, begin by recognizing your triggers and the aspects of your work likely to affect you emotionally.
Once you identify your emotional triggers, limit your exposure to them. You could delegate specific tasks to team members who might be less affected. Certainly, you can restrict your reading or watching disturbing news stories related to your work.
Prioritize self-care practices to process emotions and reduce stress. Create safe spaces to openly discuss your feelings and experiences with others who can support you.
Don’t be afraid to seek help for establishing your emotional boundaries and assistance for maintaining them.
2. Financial boundaries
Purpose-driven leaders sometimes feel compelled to sacrifice their financial well-being for their causes.
Financial vulnerabilities of purpose-driven leaders
While chasing money is unlikely to be your preferred approach to your career, you don’t have to ignore your finances completely to carry out your mission effectively.
Everyone makes trade-offs while traveling a career path. However, consider establishing an intentional financial boundary when choosing how to compromise.
In an article published by Conscious Company Media, leadership consultant Johanna Lyman says that leaders committed to purpose sometimes have a mindset about money that hinders their success. For example, they often view money as “the root of all evil.” And they also tend to believe that they should not care about money if they are doing great work that benefits society. These mindsets can set you up for failure over time.
Establishing financial boundaries
Lyman offers ways to overcome these self-limiting assumptions. She suggests writing down all of your beliefs about money. Once your list is complete, explore each assumption by asking yourself whether you are confident it is true. Also, review the evidence supporting and contradicting each belief, and expand your thinking by considering what else might be possible.
As you create your financial boundary, consider seeking guidance from financial advisors or experts who can provide personalized advice tailored to your goals and circumstances. They can help you set strategies with actionable steps.
3. People boundaries
Purpose-driven leaders often work with various stakeholders, including employees, customers, donors, volunteers, and partners. The challenge is in how to work with the various groups productively.
Stakeholder vulnerabilities of purpose-driven leaders
Of course, you are eager to form strong relationships with your multiple stakeholders. You need their support, input, and other assistance to successfully pursue your purpose and accomplish your mission.
However, various stakeholders bring varying viewpoints and needs that may not align. Therefore, to carefully navigate these potentially fraught relationships, you need clear boundaries in the form of expectations.
Clear boundaries concerning what your stakeholders can expect from you and your organization will be helpful to you in establishing credibility and trust. And trust is the key to maintaining healthy relationships with them.
Establishing stakeholder boundaries
Your list of stakeholders is most likely voluminous. And because of your dedication to your purpose and desire to bring stakeholders on board, you may be susceptible to the illusion that you can meet all stakeholders' needs.
You cannot be all things to all people. Therefore you need a strategy for setting clear and realistic expectations with the various groups and individuals.
Your first step in creating boundaries is identifying and prioritizing the stakeholders. While you may believe all stakeholders are essential, some are undoubtedly more critical to your purpose and mission than others.
Once you have selected your most critical stakeholders, your next step is understanding their needs. The most challenging part of this boundary-setting is communicating reasonable expectations about what you and your organization can achieve within your capacity and resources.
Transparency is the key. Describe your commitments to them clearly, and explain the logic behind them. Once you set the stakeholder boundaries, be firm and consistent in upholding them.
- Creating boundaries is essential to sustaining your passion, drive, and effectiveness.
- As a purpose-driven leader, you are at risk regarding your emotional connections with your work, your mindsets around finances, and your desire to meet all stakeholders’ every need.
- By intentionally thinking through how you will handle risks in these areas and setting your boundaries accordingly, you will ensure a long and productive career where your work remains meaningful and your impact great.
Kathy Miller Perkins is a psychologist and a leadership and career coach. In her role as the owner and CEO of a consulting firm, she has assisted leaders of global corporations and educational institutions. Kathy directs a research program exploring the culture and leadership characteristics of successful purpose-driven organizations. She authored the book, Leadership and Purpose: How to Create a Sustainable Culture, and writes regularly for Forbes.com. Kathy obtained her B.A. and M.A. from Indiana University and her Ph.D. in Social Psychology from the University of Kentucky. She is currently pursuing B Corps certification—a designation for businesses that meet the highest standards of verified social and environmental performance, public transparency, and legal accountability to balance profit and purpose.
*The original version of this article appeared on Forbes.com, where Kathy is a contributor.